Emotions are like waves. You can not fight them, but you can learn how to surf them. Every emotion you try to suppress becomes stronger. Through feeling your emotions you release them automatically. The more you judge and think about your emotions, the more you hold on to them and the more you feed them. If you don't judge them, you can not even be afraid of them. You don't need to know where your emotions are coming from - so why complicate things?
If you can feel it now, you can heal it now.